I heard a new country song today. Welcome to the Future. I couldn’t find the artist, but it went something, like: “I use to go down to the arcade and now I have it on my phone.”
I can relate. The internet has change our world completely, I imagine much in the same way the car change those living in 1908.
It seems that every great invention has it pluses and minuses. Divorced at 44, new to dating after 22 years I gravitated toward the internet, it was easier for a busy Realtor with 3 sons. I quickly learned that the advantage to sort, sift and get to know someone also made it an disadvantage, way too easy to discard and move on.
I therefore I felt that the last couple of times I was very disposable, easily discarded and not taken very seriously. To combat this I took on making myself more attractive, reading books on how to attract and keep a man and so on, very big undertaking and still in progress, but I have to say it has given me a bit of an attitude. If women were not hard enough on themselves.
Why is it that men still call the shots, are their any, who are working on themselves? expanding their brains? working their brawn? There are some, true, that exercise regularly, I don’t think it’s so much to please women, or else they would go shopping, get a haircut and a facial. They work on their brains to make more money. I hear from men friends and prospects alike, “They are lonely,they can’t find any good women, women only want bad boys and handsome tall men,
Excuse me guys, it’s all bullshit, only thing I can really call it. It’s a whiney, pity party to lay blame somewhere else. We all know what the number 1 criteria a woman looks for in a man is someone who can make her laugh and then someone who adores them and then maybe a good kisser or dancer.
They start off really great for about 2 weeks about all they can keep at it and then they go back to their thoughtless, selfish and boring ways.
Women are to blame too, we get ourselves all made up pretty and we laugh at all their jokes and we smile and let them open our car door. The next thing you know we nagging because they left the toilet seat up and they were a half hour late and forgot what we like to drink. We start leaving off the make-up and put on our sweats.
Nowadays I get to talk to lots of couples, newlyweds so cute and attentive and long term 50+ year couples and they are so sweet, looking out for each other and finishing each others sentences. The problem as my good friend Bev so astutely pointed out is that “we didn’t stick it out, we didn’t stay past the painful parts to get to the happily ever after. I gave up after 20 years and now I can barely stand it 2 months, with the same man.
Where did our committment go?
Welcome to the future.
